Want to know how to use a strap-on or what the sexual fuss is all about? Then you’ve come to the right place. They’re mysterious creatures that are both fascinating and confusing at the same time. And how on earth are they here to stay? Here’s our guide on how to use a strap-on properly, how to make sure it doesn’t fall off during thrusting, and how to choose the right strap-on for you and your partner. A strap-on is a dildo that does not have a strap-on. Designed to be used by people with vaginas, it has a round part (often called the “bullet”, “saddle”, or “bangs”) that is inserted into the wearer, and a larger dildo-like part that goes into the receiver for penetration. Because the saddle fits inside the wearer, no strap is needed to hold it in place. Instead, it can be achieved by using only the strength of the pelvic floor muscles. Here are some reasons why people are attracted to strap-ons instead of traditional strap-ons: They allow for penetration on both sides They can be put on quickly without a strap-on, making them more spontaneous to wear Buying one sex toy can be cheaper than buying several strap-on dildos To avoid the pain on the pubic mound caused by traditional strap-ons Some even vibrate! They are also very versatile toys, popular with lesbian partners, trans men, and heterosexual couples alike. They can be a great tool for gender play, and you can also bring role reversal and power play into your sessions. For one, it’s probably not the best toy for strap-on beginners. It takes time to learn how to penetrate someone and build up enough strength and endurance in the right parts of your body.The first step in using a sexual strap-on is to warm up. Depending on the size of the toy’s saddle, you’ll probably need to get your vagina pretty excited to insert it comfortably. I also highly recommend using a good quality lubricant to make insertion go smoothly. Once you’ve inserted it in a position that feels good and your partner is warmed up enough, you can try to penetrate it. Take your time, especially if it’s your first time, and make sure you’re both comfortable with everything. One of the many reasons people love strap-ons is how realistic they look and feel during penetration, whether vaginal or anal. However, different toys come in different shapes and sizes, making them more or less suitable for their intended use. Here are some of the types of strap-ons you might come across: Strap-ons with small ball-shaped saddles can be comfortable for some people, especially for those who aren’t interested in penetration with something big, but still want a tasty G-spot massage. This is Lovehoney’s Double Wow, which has textured balls and clitoral ridges for extra stimulation, and a pretty realistic-looking shaft. Although they are larger, some people find them more ergonomic because they often sit deeper in the vagina and feel more secure thanks to the curves. If you want even more stimulation for each other, try a vibrating strap-on. There are two main types of vibrating strap-ons: those with a removable mini vibrator at the base, like the Wet for Her Union above, and those with a built-in vibrating motor. This is the biggest question about using a strap-on, and it’s not easy to answer. Many people find that it can be very difficult or impossible to dream of using a strap-on without a strap or other type of support. You’ll get wet inside after all! The natural moisture and additional lubrication that the vagina produces makes things very slippery. It’s not the ideal environment to hold things, especially if they’re weighted down by motors or electronics. Thinking about penetration can make it even more difficult to keep a strap-on in place. Your partner’s movements can affect how well you grip the saddle, as well as the resistance of the area you’re penetrating. The anus in particular can require significant pelvic floor strength to penetrate and move in and out. So how do you keep a strap-on in place? Choose your strap-on wisely
