For some reason, it often happens that a man comes but a woman doesn’t. Men are also more likely to orgasm on their own. To avoid leaving you behind for a battery-powered penis, it’s time to prioritize sex in bed and figure out how to make sure you’re sexually satisfied at all times. (Yes, it’s possible!) The “orgasm gap” is a term that describes the discrepancy between sexual pleasure and male pleasure, especially orgasm. Depressingly, 83% of sexual people are “satisfied” with the frequency of their sexuality, even if it seems very rare. Sexual people (and you) don’t have to accept these dire numbers. For us, ultimate pleasure comes from how we interact in and out of bed, how independent we are, and even if another party is involved. While most sexual people don’t orgasm through penetration, there are plenty of other ways to give a woman regular pleasure in bed. The foundation of making a woman orgasm starts with you and how you take care of yourself. This also applies to how you take care of her, in and out of the bedroom. Before you even think about having sex with her, here are some things to consider. No one wants a dirty, lazy lover! Good hygiene is a bare minimum, but for us sexual partners, it means knowing how to take care of ourselves and not having to play the mom. (It’s very off-putting and an easy way to ruin the atmosphere if your partner has to mother you.) Grooming yourself, rather than just showering, is also a good way to improve your hygiene. Keep your nails short and clean, especially if you want to touch us. Nobody wants dirty fingernails anywhere near their pussy! Incorporate a tongue scraper into your daily routine and take care of your oral hygiene. It’s hot to keep your mouth fresh and know that you want us to do that to you! In addition to maintaining your body and health, you should extend this care and cleanliness to your home and car as well. Not only is it a great sign that you take care of yourself; you want to feel fresh, clean, and sexy when you’re in these spaces (especially naked). Taking care of yourself also makes you more confident. The easiest way to find out how someone likes to be fucked is to ask. Have a curious and caring communication about our likes, dislikes, deepest desires, and darkest fantasies, and strive to understand these things both within the context of your relationship and with her as an independent individual. Does she like toys? What genre does she like best? Does she need you to lick her pussy until she orgasms? Does she want to have a threesome? Understand what is best for her and what pleasure means to her, and give yourself direction on how to increase emotional intimacy and meet her needs in a more pleasurable way. A little verbal foreplay goes a long way, but the key here is to stop thinking about yourself for once. The two main things to focus on are what you want for her and complimenting her actions and appearance.Treat this like a warm-up for foreplay. Use what you learned from the conversation about her fantasies. You can be very forthright later in the conversation and say things like, “I wish I was lying with you right now” or “I can’t wait to lie down with you later,” or “I can’t stop thinking about how you came.” Now that you’re sure you’re on the right track and you’ve given her a little extra work outside the bedroom, let’s get down to business: how to give her sexual pleasure in bed. Spend more time on foreplay shortly, since it’s often a rushed thing to do. However, there are other options to make sure you’re the best cock she’s ever had. There are plenty of options to make sure she’s yours first, like giving oral sex, flirting together, intensifying the dirty talk, bringing in toys, and more.
